Drinking tea together that we collected during our travels.
Daydreaming about which room we should put a second AC unit in, but secretly enjoying nights of laying around in our underwear in front of the fan complaining about how hot it is.
Watching shows with me like Counting On or Call the Midwife, even though they are the last things he’d choose for himself. Likewise when he gets me to watch Paranormal Alien Investigation Cover-Up Conspiracy Cops, or whatever it is.
Calmly accepting that I refuse to use weedkiller in the garden, even though it means a lot more work for both of us.
Never getting mad when I let the dogs have a tiny taste of every food I eat, even if it’s expensive caviar or sashimi or something.
Adhering to his silly rules about sock pairing – they are all grey and exactly the same except for a tiny strip on the toe that can be red, blue or green, which nobody would ever see, but apparently it makes all the difference.
Scratching each other’s backs at the exact spot that we can’t reach ourselves.
Putting up with (and ultimately enjoying, even if he won’t admit it) the way I like to do Christmas.
Eating sour warheads because it amuses him so much to watch the faces I pull.
Kitchen hugs, couch hugs, car hugs, garden hugs, bed hugs, just got out of the shower and only wearing a towel hugs.
Watching him play with the darling dogs and always wanting them to live their best lives.
No judgment from either of us if it turns into a tortilla-chips-and-salsa-for-dinner kind of night. No judgment from him on my coke zero addiction either.
Reading through the cards and letters he’s given me over the years – he says he’s not a writer, but those are some of the sweetest things I’ve ever read.
Speculating on ridiculous hypotheticals, like what names we would pick if we had quadruplets, or how much money we could make if we started a truffle farm, or what airline a publisher would make me fly if I went on a book tour.
Patiently teaching him things to say in Chinese for our next big trip, knowing that he’ll probably forget them by tomorrow.
Hunting down my favourite milk-flavoured bun from BreadTop and bringing it home on a plane, all the way from Sydney.